https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/meet-me-in-the-middle 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_a20974f43f154ec89c394f3a271fa447~mv2.png Scenic natural bridge across a peaceful river https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/two-secrets-to-hope 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_a99265bf626d4efca3664d7e3445bf77~mv2.png Seedling breaking through the ground https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/between-terror-and-enlightenment 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_9e5d7fae22cb49c4b7189fd5971c36c6~mv2.jpg A simple painting of a person with wide eyes, open mouth, and raised arms against a colorful background. https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/looking-forward-and-looking-back 2026-10-08 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_61e426410d0c4d3fa976a1fc63858166~mv2.jpg Alyssa seated in a canoe, looking back at the Chocó rainforest along the Río Cayapas https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/feel-like-your-work-and-personal-life-are-in-tension-theres-just-one-answer- 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_cc6ad4a4038a4cdc8dea9a083d781239~mv2.png A frog carrying a heavy load of books across the road https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/what-to-do-when-life-is-really-hard 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_895734120b6f4b36958878f403b43bb9~mv2.jpeg A hummingbird approaching a purple flower https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/dont-be-afraid-to-hurt-those-you-love 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/234705a77b7b4aae825b096666ebbd41.jpg Content note: This post discusses suicidal ideation and the experience of supporting a loved one through a mental health crisis. You may think from the title that this post is about being selfish or taking advantage of people. It’s actually about learning to love more. And it’s not written for sadists or manipulators; it is for caretakers and codependent types. We each have different styles of loving, and with them comes different healing work to do. This work is for those who love so deeply, so selflessly, at times, it seems, that they cannot bear the thought of hurting those they love the most. A few years ago, a loved one began to suffer from constant suicidal ideation. They had struggled in the past, but no one in their life was prepared for this storm. What do you say to someone who cannot sleep at night because they want to kill themselves? How do you live your own life when you are up so many nights trying to calm their fears, trying to keep them safe? I would never forgive myse https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/the-anatomy-of-a-broken-heart-and-how-to-heal-one 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_62d8d52347d044748fb55d35bbd1bc18~mv2.jpg Colorful sculpture of hands holding a broken heart https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/people-who-panic-are-brave--you-should-be-too- 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_0dba9a8083014c49b4b6ec2f40f498f4~mv2.jpeg A woman standing in nature beneath a foreboding sky https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/nelson 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_651bc0bf1ccc4a5183c133fce01c4107~mv2.png Aerial view of the Ecuadorian Chocó rainforest beside a cleared area, showing the contrast between lush tropical forest and deforested land. https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/when-life-comes-crashing-down--a-recipe-for-healing 2026-10-08 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_f3d1fd0cbb324089906d044347a8d074~mv2.jpg Dark storm cloud edged with sunlight above a silhouetted treeline, with rays of light breaking through the sky. https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/seeing-my-white-privilege 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_23e318769d12438099d986f0edcebc59~mv2.png A grayscale background of bricks overlaid with a picture of a white woman looking out https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/the-one-reason-you-might-think-you-dont-like-breathwork-and-four-more-to-give-it-a-try 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/nsplsh_7592cffeefef46d78f167020f15a0c9d~mv2.jpg multicolor bubbles floating in the air https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/light-and-darkness 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_025e6cb75c874d91b7bc86bde7f61278~mv2.jpg Lamps shaped like flowers with dark background https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/how-to-achieve-the-benefits-of-meditation-when-you-cant-focus-relax-or-let-go 2026-10-08 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/nsplsh_9bdcbf648d9d4e8abcee436116fee9df~mv2.jpg Healing stones arranged on a circular mandala-patterned cloth for meditation and grounding. https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/kol-nidre 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/nsplsh_8cfb5025b42843c5be4fbec1c95daea8~mv2.jpg A black and white photo of a hand bowing the bass fiddle https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/infinite-mindfulness 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/742b016cc9f74b629d9716bb886b8b23.jpg Crystals of different shapes, sizes, and colors https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/asking-the-big-questions 2026-10-08 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/nsplsh_363256376e746c4b674c38~mv2_d_7360_4912_s_4_2.jpg Green and violet aurora borealis glowing across a star-filled night sky above a dark evergreen forest. https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/seeing-healing 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_b9d35d4cb63344fa8f5e2145878e3edd~mv2.png A healthy bromeliad in a terracotta pot, illuminated by warm central light https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/your-pain-matters-too 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_073c08c33e424e25b0b3016db7744620~mv2.png Heart that says "you matter" https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/life-with-no-teacher 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_e5d1f98ce9b14ebd9b58871704ad837a~mv2.png An open book with people of different ages walking across its pages toward a misty forest, with birds flying overhead. https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/growing-through-up-and-down 2026-10-08 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/nsplsh_4e03a97803bd41bbbbbb3d84cf8bd0f5~mv2.jpg A person standing with arms outstretched beneath the bare branches of a large tree. https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/you-dont-have-to-believe-in-yourself 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_aaa579ccca774c02b4ebb4a6da2f21dd~mv2.png A woman resting in nature with a dog and cat beside her, surrounded by plants and gentle light, suggesting support and connection. https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/the-truth-about-anger 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_e4b36d4388764afd9a4eb581094642cf~mv2.jpg Flames of fire https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/beginning-to-breathe 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_c894b68dcd8044468848fcb9b1440ca2~mv2.png A flowering tree with exposed roots, pastel blossoms, and birds flying upward against a cream background. https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/the-shutdown-we-truly-cannot-afford 2026-10-06 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_0c7eb2f0d73849318291c0d4219f70f5~mv2.jpg A globe with a needle and mask https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/how-to-let-go 2026-10-16 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_89fe9b95566e462ea6eb5be75c693a4f~mv2.png Looking up at a canopy of trees with blue sky in the background https://www.alyssaluboff.net/post/a-poem-for-peace 2026-10-07 https://static.wixstatic.com/media/97c57d_c8e0bd333ea4442e976cd69b61c0cc15~mv2.png Artistic rendering of view of planet Earth